This topic is an elaborate topic which covers many areas but i would like to approach this topic based on a case where most people are familiar with.The case sounds like this,try imagining yourself in a situation whereby you got angry at someone for something he has done to you.He may hurt you a lot or he may hurt you a little.The whole point is that you are hurt and you are angry.So what would you?Would you forgive or forget?
We can attempt to approach this matter in two ways:
1:Forgive
A person once pointed out to me that you should learn to forgive in the first place.Forgiving makes you lose that grudge you have upon a person.Thus such an action would helps a person to let go of the anger from him.Try to see yourself as a burette filled with many unwanted chemicals within the apparatus.The anger is just like those unwanted chemicals.Now we just need to release all of the chemicals to empty the burette for it to become clean.When we are able to release the knob withholding the chemicals the burette would just become empty and pure again.Therefore to forgive is just like releasing all the unwanted anger away and by doing so we feel peaceful within ourselves.
2:Forget
Well now forgetting is also a component you may need or should need if you are facing such a situation.Forgetting some incident is in-fact good for anyone who is facing a tough time forgiving.Some sins are so hard to be forgiven that we should just forget about it.Someone said this to me before that by forgetting you are running away from your problem.Well it is actually how he forgets that resolves this issue.One should forget such a sin that has been done and move on with his life.Sometimes even when you might have forgiven somemone but if forgiving has not let out the anger what would you do?Well it is time to hit a reset button to erase all this feeling towards that memory.Thus a person who forgets can move on without lingering in past pains.It's just like reformatting your computer.
Well some might argue that forgiving can release your anger some might argue that forgetting is actually the solution.Sometimes forgiving is good but how sure is one that his anger has not dissipated or forgetting is just sometimes reluctance of facing your feelings.As you can see if one does not practice forgiving or forgetting the right way he might just end up in this dilemma.
This issue can get even more complex but i have tried to put it in a very simple way for everyone to understand.Choices are easy to make but we must never make the process of choice making anymore complex because believe me it is in-fact very easy to be done.One should just give yourself only two options "to do it or not to do it".The left or right,up or down?Why need so much drama?
To me forgiving and forgetting are equally good in the process of handling anger.Try to take it as a sort of anger management therapy.If you can't forgive then forget or vice versa because in the end of the day you just want to remove anger from you.Choose wisely which method that may fit your style for i'm sure you want to move on and create a new chapter in life.
Forgive or forget?You decide for yourself.
